Thailand is known for having misconceptions in dating Thai women due to its popularity when it comes to bars, nightclubs, bar girls, and ladyboys. We all know that Thailand is filled with beautiful women with their beautiful dark skin and unique silky black hair. If you’ve found someone online and you both agreed to take the relationship further, it’s only natural to be curious what it’s like to date a Thai woman and what should you do to make her fall for you.
Here are the things you need to know in dating a Thai woman before meeting her for the first time:
Know her culture first
If dating Thai women, doing some research about her country’s culture and traditions is definitely a must! Get to know at least a little of Thailand’s history and its popular cities. Do some research on where Thailand is located on the world map, how many hours does it take to get there from your country.
Get to know more about their art, dishes, religion, and culture so that you can have something to talk about on your first date. This will make your Thai girlfriend feel special because she will see that you’re really making an effort to knowing her culture. Know their traditional dances like khon, lakhon, and likay. You can even ask your Thai girlfriend to go and watch with you.
You may also ask her to take you to Thai restaurants or night markets so you can try their famous authentic Thai dishes that are known to be rich in flavor and ingredients. It is also a plus if you learn a few Thai words and phrases so you can impress your Thai girlfriend. If you show interest in learning about her country, you will have a good head start in your growing relationship.
It has always been a problem for every Thai woman to be generalized as hookers and bar girls all over the media and on foreign countries. A good Thai woman is very hard to find in Thailand as they are afraid of being judged if they are hanging out with a foreigner. Some Thai women would not date foreigners as they would also think about foreigners as sex expats.
In order to stop generalizing and stereotyping, you’ve got to approach her gently with respect and honesty. When you ask a Thai woman for a date, make sure to make it more traditional by asking them politely. Most would take at least a couple of days for her to decide. Just be patient in waiting for her response and do not force her if she is not interested in going out with you.
When dating Thai women, the safest way to get to know each other more is to ask a Thai woman out for a coffee date rather than a fancy dinner.
It’s the thought that counts
Thai women are also being stereotyped as materialistic. Most would believe that Thai women wouldn’t date you at all if you won’t give them something in return, like jewelry, clothes and money. But in reality, dating Thai women is not hard at all. A traditional Thai woman won’t need luxurious gifts, expect only to be taken on fine dining restaurants, and ask money from you. They are willing to pay for themselves on your dates because they have their own jobs.
Don’t be afraid to give some small gifts to her from time to time. You may give her a bouquet of flowers, chocolates and teddy bears during special occasions like Christmas, New year and anniversaries. Take note that not all Thai women are materialistic. A non-materialistic woman would consider as the best gifts that you can give is your love, care, and respect for them.
First impressions last
Thai women or any woman of any nationality would prefer to date a man who dresses neatly and practices proper grooming. They want to date a man who smells good and not someone who’s as if they haven’t showered for days. A man should take note of that in order for them to get the best first impression from Thai women.
We all know that you would only get one chance of scoring a good first impression. So make sure to never wear a “Farang Uniform”. A Farang Uniform is what most western men wear in Thailand that consists of tank tops and shorts.
Be warned for this can actually end a date quickly, especially if you’re dating high class or traditional Thai women.
Slowly but surely
Make sure not to be assertive during the first few dates. It’s important not rush things with your Thai date, especially if you’re serious about them. Being rude is what makes you a bad person in Thai culture. It is also the same as being ignorant and disrespectful if you show your rude attitude in public.
It’s important to remember that making any kind sexual advances is a big no-no on your first date. She will only get worried that you are stereotyping her as a usual Thai woman that foreigners think. Do not kiss her in public or show any public display of affection because Thai people are conservative when it comes to those things.
A Thai woman is unlikely to confront other people. If you happen to notice this during your first date, do not assume that they are not honest and sincere. It’s a part of Thai culture where they believe that it is better to be silent than to say something that can hurt other person’s feelings.
Refrain from unwanted topics
Jokes about sex are unlikely to be an appropriate topic for every Thai woman and you should refrain these topics during your first dates. It is better not to talk about it as they find it very embarrassing and inappropriate. By not doing it, they will be assured that your love for her is true and sincere.
If you are planning to meet her parents right away, it is best to do it if you don’t have plans to settle down with the Thai woman that you are dating anytime soon. It is in the Thai dating culture that when you are introduced to the family, marriage will be expected afterwards. Thai women are taught by their parents and older relatives that they will only introduce a man to the family if she is marrying him.
If you are planning to take her with you in your hometown, you can expect that her family is also anticipating a marriage one of these days.
Plan your dates
The place in where you will take her on a date will reflect on how you look and treat her. Make sure to refrain from having your first dates in bars and clubs, especially if you’re dating a traditional Thai woman. They would most likely feel that you are degrading and not valuing her or making an effort.
Make sure to know and ask she likes or mostly does in her free time so you will get a clue on where you will have your first date.
Make sure not to hurt her feelings
Language barriers and cultural differences may result in miscommunication and misunderstanding.
To avoid these problems to happen, make sure not to make any jokes that a Thai woman might find insulting or inappropriate. You must also be careful with the language and words that you use whenever you’re with her. It may be normal for you but you are already hurting a Thai woman deep inside.
Avoid in making bad comments about her country, culture, and beliefs because they are very loyal and faithful to their nation’s culture.
Sanuk (Have Fun!)
Despite the fact that every Thai woman has their own cultural beliefs that they need to follow, you can still have fun with her. A Thai woman does not expect you to be this perfect guy who knows how to handle dates very well.
Just relax and enjoy taking the time in getting to know each other.
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