How to Spice Up a Conversation
Some people have no problem approaching someone on a beach or in a coffee shop. They could strike up and spice up a conversation oh-so-smoothly as if they do this for a living.
Meanwhile, a few others shudder—or maybe less exaggerated than this—at the thought of talking to someone. There are even some that find it hard to eye flirt! Undoubtedly, dating has its fair share of challenges, especially in the Thai dating scene.
Interesting Questions to Ask to Spice Up A Conversation
There’s nothing inherently wrong with being shy or uncomfortable talking to someone you’ve just met. But it might be your biggest roadblock if you’re looking for someone to date in Thailand.
Luckily, we’re here to help you seem fun and outgoing in front of a Thai single you’re attracted to. Below are a series of questions to ask to spice up a conversation:
No-Pressure Conversation-Starters
We highly recommend starting with something light, casual, and simple. Think of this part as an ‘appetizer’ for a full meal of conversation:
1. What were you like as a kid?
They may respond with specifics about their favorite TV shows or hobbies as a child or their family dynamics. They may also talk about the best toy they got as a kid, a memorable family vacation, or their upbringing.
Whether they reply with a highly superficial or meaningful answer, this question can help strengthen your relationship with your crush. It gives you an idea of what stands out to them as a core memory. In turn, it lets you take a peek at that person’s upbringing or to their character.
2. Do you live alone?
This question is a great conversation starter because it lets you know someone’s living situation.
Are they staying with family? Is it a cultural thing or simply about practicality? Or, if they reside far from their folks, do they have roommates or live alone?
This information is essential as it gives you a glimpse of how pragmatic or independent someone is. But the best part of opting to throw this question to spice up your conversation on a date? You’ll get hilarious anecdotes about living scenarios like horrible roommates or epic still-living-with-the-family-and-bringing-the-date-to-the-house mishaps.
3. What’s your favorite book, film, TV show, or music of all time?
We all have that favorite book, film, TV show, or music of all time. You may have watched it so many times before—and are still planning to when time permits—or is on repeat on your playlist! Inarguably, these things have become your benchmark for everything you read, watch, or listen to.
Broach the subject of their favorite film, TV shows, podcasts, and music (and other related topics) of all time. Who knows, maybe you like the same form of entertainment? Also this way, you can invite that person to binge them together.
Spice up the conversation by discussing core scenarios about any topic—fiction or non-fiction—they’re into. Do you both like watching Friends? Talk about the scene that made you literally roll with laughter.
However, say you enjoy watching Friends, but they like HIMYM, then don’t engage and find anyone else. Okay, kidding! Seriously, when that happens, talk about some common ground.
We bet liking different shows—especially those that people have constantly been comparing against each other—is more interesting. If anything, you could argue why your favorite is better than theirs and vice versa. Nevertheless, assure them you’re open to trying their guilty pleasures.
4. What did you first notice about me?
What made them reach out to you? Was it your smile? Your confidence? Come on! Ask it; we know you’re already so curious.
Or, if you were the one to approach them, tweak the question a bit. Ask that person what they think is most attractive about you. Prepare yourself to be flattered or widely dismayed by their answer.
Meaningful Topics to Get To Know Each Other Better
Now, on to the deeper questions:
1. Tell me one thing that people notice about you right away
Use these talking points to boost your date’s ego and spice up the conversation. Allow them to brag a little by making them try hard to fascinate you with their qualities. The harder they try, the better—it proves they’re interested in you!
After some time has passed, give them a follow-up question. Ask them, “But what do you hope people notice more of in you instead?”
They can talk about what they want to be known for and what they wish had received greater attention. Take a closer look at the one part of them that begs to be picked up and noticed.
2. What’s your ideal destination?
We all have that dream destination we just have to go to before we die. For most people, it’s Paris, the ‘City of Love.’ So to spice up a conversation with that adorable stranger you see in a bar or beach, you can always ask this question.
Find out where that ideal place it. While you’re at it, try to probe if they’re willing to bring you along with them.
In a deeper sense, though, knowing if your crush is a homebody or a traveler is critical. Ideally, it’s because many people grow personally by exploring new cultures and places. And you’d want this in a future dating partner; someone mature with a great sense of reality.
If they love traveling, they are likely anxious to get out of their comfort zone and experience stimulating adventures. But, at the same time, it may suggest they can’t stay put in one place for a long time. Which will massively disappoint you if you want a steady commitment.
3. What’s the best lesson you’ve learned in life?
Life is so much easier for some people. They always get what they want: financial stability, a romantic relationship, and a great support system. And then, there are those on the receiving end of the stick. The ones who feel like they’re the unluckiest because problems seem to be piling up.
While the latter seems unattractive, it’s definitely where you’ll learn the most. And you’ll get a glimpse at that person’s life and spice up the conversation if you ask them this question. Their response can indicate a lot about their personal development.
This question is effective not only because it will inspire the other person to talk about themselves (which is why we’re here for). But also because it will show you how they have dealt with life’s obstacles and where they wish to focus their attention in the future.
4. What do you think of me?
Okay, let’s get real. This is what you’re really itching to know, right? So ask away!
Find out if you have, in some ways, penetrated their heart. Discover whether things with that person may transpire—ask it to get the clarity you need. Most importantly, when you ask them this, you’ll know where you stand in that person’s life.
You got this!
When you like someone, you’ll want to know how to catch their eyes and stir their minds. So, take these questions as your virtual wingman (or wingwoman?). Good luck!
